Celebrate what you found, and do your best to nourish it. Or instead, do you find that your partner continues to be integrity-based? Talk to your partner about your feelings, and if things don't change, it's probably time to move on.If you really want love that can last, it's doubtful that you'll find it here.for love usually determines the kind of love we find.Popular culture assails us with romanticized images of love, and then encourages us to play dehumanizing games in order to find it.Become Fiercely Discriminating—About The Things That Matter Most If you're going to be brave enough to show your true self, you'll need to know how to protect yourself.I suggest that you become fiercely discriminating about with whom you choose to spend your time. Is he or she emotionally generous (even if quietly so)?The steps I describe in this post and in my book will not only lead you toward real love; they will also enrich your entire life, because they are the skills of true intimacy.Go Where You're Likely To Find Generous, Giving People Forgive me for starting off with the hardest one of all.
I call this phenomenon "The Wave", because like a wave, it can slam you off balance, yet in time, it will simply fade away.When we embrace who we really are and begin to accept our limitations, we feel we have a spine. When we are ashamed of who we are, there's only one option for protecting ourselves; a brittle armor that keeps the world at a distance.Your true protection is found in choosing someone who is kind, giving, and accepting of who you are.People who devalue us make us want to convince them that they're wrong.But here's the good news: Just as we can be seduced by unavailability, we are also capable of being seduced by .