It’s also easy to build up a fantasy of what someone is like when you’re long distance.“The weekend didn’t live up to your expectations—but what really happened is that this guy didn’t live up to the expectations that you had created over the prior few months,” says Lissa Coffey, relationship expert and author of Her take: “I used a dating site a few years ago and was linked up with someone that didn't have a photo on his profile.
Ever been seeing someone and they’ve suddenly disappeared into thin air, never to be heard of again? Ever had that happen and then suddenly three months later the ghost has returned from the dead and started texting you as if nothing had happened? And if your OH as hopped from a relationship with you to an intense love affair with someone new in next to no time, you’re probably a victim of cushioning. You might be wondering when is ‘too soon’ to upload a soppy coupley picture of the pair of you on Facebook, or when to tell your mum that you can go to your cousins wedding with an actual date.‘We all ask our friends, ‘When did you know your partner was The One? ’ If your relationship isn’t falling within these time frames, use them to adjust your expectations.’ Or, you know, just do whatever feels comfortable for you and your partner. Soon to be graduate from Concordia University in Montreal.“Allison may have had a sense of intimacy that was never there in the first place, while he was probably dating other people,” he says.Don’t assume someone is going to be committed unless you’ve talked about it.