One time I tried to coordinate a phone call with a woman and it took eight or nine tries before I could even get her on the phone – and this call was her idea. Another time, a lady wanted to talk strictly about yoga. I wondered what kind of movies she liked, she worked us back around to yoga. Her favorite food: deep-fried yoga, with a side of macaroni and yoga-cheese.I like yoga, I do yoga, but I would like, on occasion, to discuss things other than the Reverse Warrior.Now here’s a list of topics you can expect to discuss on with someone you’ve never met: their day, their job, their friends, their hometown, their neighborhood, their likes/dislikes, their horrifying tales of Internet dating past, and their concern that I am presently falling asleep. There’s nothing inherently wrong with wanting to chat before meet someone in person, but in my experience, that chat will leave you with very little to say once you actually get together.Obviously any good date will quickly leap beyond this kind of small talk, but when you’re trying to warm up to someone, “tell me what you do for a living” can be a pretty valuable ice breaker.That’s where you’ll get the info you truly ax need to truly ax know. But it’s a thorny issue - and one that must be tackled, as more and more of us turn to the online dating.In these few instances, I was happy for the phone call.But the other times – of which there were many – the call confirmed what I already believed: we might get along, let’s see how we do in person.
Believe me, I’ve got out with super crazy, and I’m sorry to say they did not rev chainsaws or sharpen knives in the background of our telephone calls.
As Vanessa mentioned, there’s the safety issue – wanting to make sure her date isn’t an ax murderer. Like, do they say “ax” every fifth word (“Beautiful weather we’re ax having today….wait, no!
”) or maybe discreetly scope out your murder potential (“What would you say is the best place in your house to store human remains?
-Vanessa, NYC Don’t worry, Vanessa, I get this one all the time.
And my answer is simple: yes, you should definitely talk to someone on the phone before going out on a date as long as you want that date to totally suck. This is what I mean — here’s a list of topics you can expect to discuss on a phone call with someone you’ve never met: their day, their job, their friends, their hometown, their neighborhood, their likes/dislikes, their horrifying tales of Internet dating past.