The guilty party then might have to pay a fine and a guilty suitor had to return the gifts.In western Finland when banns were published (from the 18th century on), the bridal couple was given a small silver stick and a crutch to express that the couple had been "cast" from the pulpit and had in the process "broken their legs".If the answer was favorable, the girl and her parents visited the suitor's home.The future daughter-in-law might also stay for a week and help with the household work. and in the 17th century it could be silver goblets.Recently I read that the minimum marriage age was set in the Ecclesiastic Law of 1686.It was 14 for boys and 13 for girls in the 16th century.In Karelia it was the suitor's father or a relative.
It used to be the custom after the banns were read for the first time for the bride and an older woman to visit her relatives and neighbors.
Young people needed the consent of their parents before they could marry.
If they married against their parents' wishes, they could not expect a dowry or inheritance.
In 1721 it was raised to 21 and 15 respectively, but the sons of peasants were permitted to marry at age 18 and this was effective until 1922.
Since 1911 girls have been allowed to marry at age 17.