Dating when you are forty

Moreover, there's the human factor; it's much easier to reject someone arbitrarily than it is to make an exception.Those exceptions take effort, and online dating is like Amazon Prime for sex.Before now, the single men I wanted to date weren't interested in nubile twenty-somethings — at least not exclusively — and even in my mid-thirties competition from younger women didn't concern me.I had time, and if someone wanted to get up in my grill about having kids eventually, well, my mom had me when she was 38 and I turned out mostly okay. Summers, who is 54, is firmly in favor of skimming a few years off one's age, though always coming correct with current photos.As I waded through Ok Cupid's endless questions and block of text, I imagined the countless men of New York City setting their age filters to 35 or, gasp, 39, and I wondered if it was true that anyone who didn't accept me as I am isn't worth knowing.

I had about a year-long run of being semi-seduced by men to have them hightail it, like scared little bunnies. If not, what exactly are we going to talk about for 12 weeks? I tell each one the same exact thing: “If you’re dating a few men right now and can guarantee me that you’ll have at least one date a week for the duration of our time together, we can start coaching.But it's like anything else – there's a way to do it successfully, and it's a great way to meet people you wouldn't normally meet.Dating in my twenties and thirties made me feel like Odysseus, trying to choose between dashing myself on the ego-bruising rocks of casual romps or a slow death from unrequited lust for garbage humans.

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