And he said, “You know what, it’s been really eye opening, because the thing I have to remember and the thing I struggle with is that I have to take a step back or give up a seat to make room for women at the table.It’s always challenging when you have to give up something for someone else.” So he answered it pretty well, and I was encouraged by that.But with the Aziz Ansari thing, I’ve been speaking with someone I’ve been dating for awhile now about it — it’s more subtle.I do have to think about times when I’ve maybe ignored signals — not the way he did, but you do have to look back at your own actions.We left and didn’t make out, but he made it clear he was interested and we made plans to do it again.A few days later while I was out for lunch with two friends, one of them said she’d heard from multiple people that he had a history of abusing women, like intentionally getting them drunk, or disregarding issues around consent, or worse. I have had some dating experiences in the past that have not gone well, so any sense of violence or manipulation or twisted power dynamics is not something I’m interested in at all.— The dude whose dates don’t want to talk about #Me Too I’ve been dating since the Weinstein story dropped in October, and any time I’ve brought it up, which is like three or four times on dates with different women, they’re like, “Let’s talk about something else.” They acknowledge it’s messed up, and I don’t know if it’s bad conversation for a date or what, but it goes nowhere.
— The guy who wants to talk more about miscommunication There are people like Weinstein and other people who are taking advantage of their position of power — even what Louis C. My perception is that at a certain point if you pull back as a guy, the other person may be hurt.So while walking home, I asked him what he thought about #Me Too and I instantly thought to myself, Oh my God, why am I doing this?!I’m on my way to my house and he’s totally going to mess up this answer and I’m going to have to sleep with him anyway because I haven’t had sex in six months, but I’m not going to enjoy it as much.Then, in January, a story about Aziz Ansari put the spotlight on misconduct in the context of dating. Here, five women and three men* on how the movement has impacted their love lives.The piece, published on Babe.net, recounted one woman’s encounter with the actor, and her story was subsequently cast as everything from just a bad date to sexual assault. The woman who went on an awesome date — but heard whispers about him a few days later I went on a date with a guy I’d known casually for a long time.