Terri Trespicio is a media personality & lifestyle expert. Why Friendships Are the New Marriage Not Every Child-Free Woman Is Going to Change Her Mind Why I’m Glad I Didn’t Find My Husband At Princeton ###Presented by Signup for free online dating. There was always something that attracted me to them.“As a dude, I’m told that I’m supposed to date girls my own age and take care of them, pay for dinner, and so on.But for that period of time, the roles were reversed. And it felt great—who doesn’t want to be taken care of?I only dated a younger woman -- back then, girl -- once, and it didn’t last very long.
As a woman over 35, I’ve never felt more desired by men in their late 20s and early 30s than I do now—moreso even than when I was that age. Pay no attention to the ol’ elbow-jabbing, wink-wink idea that cougars* are “more likely to put out and pay for everything.” Meh, that may be a reason a naïve man attempts to score with an older lady, but it’s hardly the reason a smart man enters a relationship with one.“I find it comforting to know that her life goes on when I’m not around,” he said. Plus, I’m talking about outside of the bedroom as well. etc.) But many are not.** She’s choosier, and, unlike the 26-year-olds who think they’ll drop dead if they’re not engaged by 27, married at 28, and prego before 30, she’s looking at life a little differently now.(This is code for, “I dread clingy girls who abandon their own ships the moment we have sex, and set up camp on my shore.”) Also, the fact that an older woman has her own money means she likely worked hard to get it. You may buy into the idea that all older women are “desperate.” Granted, some are. This doesn’t mean she doesn’t want marriage/kids, because she might—but if so, she’ll be pretty clear about it up front.A slightly more mature lady has friends—but she sure as shit doesn’t need their permission to live her life.Hard as it may be to imagine a world before Facebook, the fact is, there was one—and I, along with many of my lady cohorts, lived in it. I don’t need to be omnipresent, liking everything he says or does, and I don’t have to monitor what I say, worrying it’ll be taken a certain way.