"You're having a knee-jerk reaction to your sadness and not wanting to be alone," she says.
You owe it to yourself to have some alone time, according to Dr. As difficult as it is when you're fresh out of a partnership, spending time alone can allow you to reassess what you want and need from a partner, she says.
Many people decide they're going to start dating immediately after a breakup in order to deal with their sadness, Dr. Lots of well-meaning friends might also coax you into going out with other single people or downloading a bunch of dating apps right away.
That definitely works as a distraction, but it won't necessarily lead you to another fulfilling relationship.
The breakup was a bummer because you watched a brutally relatable couple find their relationship groove, only to part ways for seemingly no reason other than the conciliatory: Dev takes advantage of a dating app (which looks like Tinder and involves swiping and matching), and goes on a string of first dates.
He uses the same exact line on every woman he matches with, and brings each date to the same exact wine bar.
After a breakup is the perfect time to reconnect with friends who you know fill you up, though.
How soon is too soon to start dating after a breakup?
The truth is that no two relationships or breakups are the same.
If your ex's friend group merged with yours, it can be complicated, she says.
"[Someone] might be worried that they don't have friends anymore now because of the breakup," she says.