The so-called ‘bitter black woman’ that has been used and abused in her past but somehow brings the issues into her new relationships, has a brother; and he’s known as the ‘bitter black man’.
And the woman who men consider full of baggage because of kids, bad relationships, or credit debt is also not alone.
He didn’t possess all of the physical traits that I liked, but was still easy on the eyes. Plus, he listened to me when I went on my long rants about work.
He was easy to talk to….until he felt us getting closer. He would make jokes about me not answering the phone because I was with my ‘other guy’; then his mistrust would cause him to become distant. You may be thinking, he doesn’t sound emotional, just typical; but I later found out that he had issues getting close to women because his former fiancée had left him a few weeks before their wedding.
This bothers me a great deal because our sex life has been very unsatisfying. When we do make love he usually stays behind me as if he doesn’t want to look at me and a lot of the time he is unable to stay erect.
While he didn’t come with a lot of physical baggage (he had good credit, single, and no kids), he had enough emotional issues to make up for it.I love him with everything I am and want to believe him but its so hard to trust him when he’s lied so many times before.How can I help my insecurities so I don’t drive him away as he does not like to be questioned and I cant seem to help it causing huge fights. Your man has some problems, not the least of which is he has a problem with intimacy.I was devastated to find he was doing the deed often, and without me.He begged me to forgive him and said he wouldn’t do it anymore.