So does this mean the only hope for a happy, committed relationship is to move to another country? As mentioned above, the observations summarized above are not really about where one is born, but rather a mentality that is influenced by societal and cultural values.
We must be aware of our own behavior in the dating game, because we are active participants in how we are treated.
We must take a look at who we are drawn to in the first place, and why.
If you keep attracting (and are attracted to) men who are emotionally unavailable and who treat you poorly, then it really doesn’t matter if your dating prospects are from France, New York, Vancouver or Mars – the shift needs to occur within you first and foremost.
You should be sympathetic, not greedy person, 18-50 y/o. I expect such qualities from man: fun loving and hard working, easy going, 26-46 y/o.
and girls have already found husbands and have made with them close-knit family. Anyone who has been in East Europe knows that east European women are very peculiar, original and differs from women of other countries. Of course, each east European girl is original, but they all have qualities that unite them. There is no such amount of beautiful girls anywhere in the world as in east Europe.
They are also raised with strong family and community values, so there is a sense of responsibility and accountability for others, not just for the self.
American culture raises children to be fiercely independent and to look out for ‘number one’.
The below is a list of some of the themes and commonalities observed.
American men will rush to get you in bed as quick as possible, while European men don’t appear to have the same rush (or desperation). European men don’t ‘date’ – in the formal way that Americans are used to.
The types of dates seen in movies – the formal ask, the fancy dinner and the entire dance that ensues simply doesn’t exist in the European mindset, in fact, the word “dating” isn’t even a part of their lexicon. Unlike American culture, where there’s almost a rite of passage which takes two people from “hooking up” to “seeing each other” to “dating” to “exclusive”, these labels just aren’t a focus or concern for European men. Rather, the mentality is, “I like you, I want to see you, and if it’s enjoyable, let’s keep seeing each other”.
In America, sexual education is not taught until one hits their teens, if they are taught at all. It’s no surprise that American men are left to their own devices, subconsciously learning about sex through porn and the media. The latest law passed in France where excessively skinny models need to prove their health is a testament to that.
But when you’re surrounded by American media, filled with Barbie dolls, waif skinny models and Baywatch breasts, the idea of what ‘beauty’ is becomes skewed. European men have a quiet confidence, a demeanor that doesn’t need to scream out loud to prove themselves. The dating culture involves trying out many different options at the same time.