In talking to them, I learned that a majority of the guys using the sites are in their late 30s, have a few kids, and are looking for a wife to settle down with.
The exceptions are barely in their 20s and typically looking to interact on a free mobile messenger app called “Overall, my experiences with the sites were varied, with one emerging as a clear winner.
Why it's great for women: Surprisingly, car-centric Los Angeles has the highest concentration of hiking and running trails in and around the city, according to a study conducted by Healthiest Habitats. Why it's great for women: This big bustling city may not be healthy for your pocketbook (rents are among the highest in the country), but the vast number of businesses catering to women's beauty needs is practically three times as many as image-conscious LA; according to a census report from 2002, there are nearly 10,000 business that specialize in personal grooming.
New York is also a walking city, and despite the overwhelming availability of junk food—pizza slice spots on every corner—it's also the place to be if you're a healthy food fanatic: New Yorkers eat an average of 35 servings of fruits and vegetables a week.
There are also loads of bike paths, amazing museums like the recently opened Barnes collection, affordable rents, and tons of bars and restaurants. The Velvet Lily, a (classy) sex toy emporium that recently won a Best in Philly Award and offers a wide range of eco-friendly products, as well as workshops and classes.
So I’m a total novice when it comes to dating online, really dating at all.
In retrospect, the popularity of mobile apps most likely draws the use of eligible military bachelors, because unlike these sites, the interface is more friendly and the likelihood of meeting someone is much higher.
Why it's great for women: Very walkable and notably uncongested, Philly is also the largest East Coast city to offer weekly single-stream recycling, with a pilot program called Recycling Rewards that offers points redeemable at local and national businesses.
What are the attributes that make a city female-friendly?
Ample outdoor spaces, well-paying jobs, healthy food, single guys, a great cupcake shop or three, a non-creepy sex toy store (to name a few).
I attempted to reach out to the sites as well to see if they could offer insight into success stories or the number of users, but their representatives said they couldn’t disclose any data about their users. Since I find the notion of paying for online dates a little too similar to paying for sex, I gave up on the site.
In addition, it wouldn’t let me set my preference to men, so despite being straight, I kept getting notifications about women I might be interested in as well.